Here we are, the day after Valentine's Day, and it hits me that my upcoming book is called Double the Love, and I did not make the connection. Oops! Interestingly, it was a Facebook post from pal Phil Gerbyshak about loving strange experiences and weird people (to which I said, "here, here!" of course) that made my mind wander and then it clicked.
I know I am not first first, and won't be the last, writer to make the connection between leadership and love. Steve Farber does it very well in his books. Tim Sanders famously did it here. And many other writers have connected how we lead people with some form of love. I am not nearly the first, but I think I have a somewhat unique perspective about it. AND, AND! In particular, the idea of "doubling the love" at particular times and in specific situations is something I have been exploring for a few years.
A couple posts ago, I asked for volunteers to review an early draft of part of the book. Talk about an outpouring of LOVE! So many folks emailed me, some who I have never corresponded with before. Many of my pals and fellow bloggers expressed an interest. It is great to know that while I was off doing my "other" things this past year that so many of you were still "here" and ready to reengage. This has been a very heart-warming thing.
Managerial love, as I define it, is taking the initiative on behalf of someone else. If we look, we will notice that leaders who show love are like magnets. Everyone wants to work for and with them. Makes sense! Managerial love is a generous act that fuels progress and progress is one of the most motivating feelings.
We can all be more loving at work. And when we improve, it feels good, because we can sense how people are attracted to our energy. We want people to pull into us. It's warming and comforting and inspiring.
Oh, golly, I am looking above at this post and I see that I am wandering all around. What's my point? I suppose my point is that love is worth thinking about - not just the love you receive (or wish you did) but the love you give and how to be more loving (and that doing so is a huge win-win).
Luckily, the book is written more coherently than this post! I rode 37 miles on my bike this morning and I am feeling spent, can I blame my fragmented thinking on that? Here's a pic of my tricked out bike. Yes, those are pink tires (limited edition Giro d'Italia pro tires, not girly powder puff tires).
I will have an excerpt of Double the Love ready and available next week. If you would like to receive the excerpt by email, drop me a quick note at lhaneberg AT gmail DOT com. And while you are emailing me, let me know what you did last week that showed managerial love and how it felt great. I would love to share a few of your examples here on the blog.
And! Here is what the cover of Double the Love will look like - cool, eh? I like the idea of the coffee cups because it hints at a coffee chat, and this is what I hope the book feels like for readers.