Finishing my anniversary "special" guests posts.... Management Craft is celebrating its 5th anniversary this month and the month is nearly over. I asked several of my long time online pals what lessons they have learned in the last five years (so that I could post their thoughts as part of my celebration). Today I am sharing the final three contributions. I think you will LOVE these and if you read through the post, I know your week will be off to a fabulous start.
Thanks to all my pals who offered their thoughts this months and THANK YOU for being a Management Craft reader.
I am going to start things off with this tasty morsel from Kevin Eikenberry (Remarkable Learning Blog). Keven sent me this brief post and offered to expand it into a longer piece, but I think it is perfect as is. So profound, so wise and it has the power to transform.
Lisa - Hard to pick *one thing* or even one thing in a given category. What I am doing instead is sharing the first two important things that came to my mind...
I've learned that . . . we are all more selfish than we realize, and when we do realize it, and make different choices, we will create better lives (and results) for ourselves and others.
I've learned that . . . ideas matter less than implementation
Here is my take on the question.
What is the most important lesson you learned in the last 5 years?
Five years is a long time and I have learned a lot in those five
years. If I have to pick one it would be the "power of daily
We live in our daily conversations - either the ones that we have with
others or the ones that we have with others about the ones we are
having with others. In other words, we are always talking - to others
or to ourselves.
What we say in those daily conversations shapes our destiny - slowly but surely.
Because it's a daily conversation, it is easy to "discount" the value
of it. But it does play a part on what actions you take on that day.
With my daily conversation, I can motivate myself to do something.
With my daily conversation, I can convince or justify not to do something.
With my daily conversation, I can feel guilty about not doing
something and get on it.
With my daily conversation, I can justify not doing something and
safely postpone it.
Daily conversations provide us the choices and options that produce
the daily actions. These daily actions are the ones that moves us
towards our goals or away from our goals.
I would be lying if I said that I have mastered the art of daily
conversations but I am far better at it than where I was five years
Yes! The power of the conversation! Hail the effective conversation! But wait!!! The conversation is a powerful tool, but should not replace the real work of self-development and goal implementation (and may not reinforce diversity if we converse primarily with like minds). Valeria Maltoni (Conversation Agent Blog) says is very well here:
I'm honored that you would ask me to participate in your blogiversary with the amazing community you built. Thank you. You are contagious, I can see that!
5 years is a long time today. Much longer than it used to be, mostly thanks to the increased number of interactions and potential connections we can make any given day. While overall this gives us tremendous opportunity to make breakthroughs, there is also the potential that we come to expect much more from ourselves and sometimes from others. That can be a good thing only if we're willing to be patient at the same time.
Being like minded is good, but it can potentially turn our slice of the digital space into an eco chamber; being open minded is hard, as the time compression also leads to quick judgment. Our gut can be right, but not all the time and we miss out when we silence a voice before it's had its time to emerge. Having said that, I've grown quite decisive towards energy vampires.
Learning more about what others are doing sometimes distracts us from tapping into our own potential. It also forces us to constantly compare ourselves to others from frequent exposure to their projects and ideas. You know, there is a reason why the saying "the grass is greener" exists. Alain de Botton points to a kinder, gentler philosophy of success in his TED talk. Learning from others is important, but so is believing in one self. I found some inspiration in that.
My new mantra is more agent, a little less conversation.
Cool. Be humble. Be aligned and in action. Be happy!
And with that, I will launch into another five years of blogging here at Management Craft.